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Success Without Struggle

When I was a kid, I believed in Santa Claus. I believed in the Tooth Fairy, and the Easter Bunny. I thought that there were pots of gold and leprechauns at the end of rainbows. And I thought that you could only be successful through struggle.

I was wrong on all accounts.

Whenever I work with a client, I ask them the same question: "What does success mean to you?" It's a topic I've discussed for months, pouring over its abstract meaning, realizing how many varieties of definitions it can have. I've worked with people to create a healthy idea of success. And yet, I had this disempowering belief in the back of my mind the entire time. 

The official definition of success is "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose." We decide what that aim or purpose is. You can accomplish making bed in the morning and have it be a success. You can accomplish a $10K month and have that be success. Making your bed doesn't include a struggle, so why would the second one have to?

I love what I do, and I'm damn good at it. I get to help others feel empowered, confident, balanced, and passionate about their lives. Why does that have to be a struggle? I love doing it. I am excited for every client meeting I have. I love the people I work with. Why would I need to struggle? 

The truth: I don't.

Success does not equal struggle. It does not mean working long hours into the night. It doesn't mean a life without fun, or giving up happiness, or doing something you hate. Yes, you have to have discipline and you have to have the motivation to do the work. But it can be work you love. It can be work that fuels your passions. It can be work that makes you sit for four hours in the same place and wonder how the time flew by. 

Success doesn't have to be struggle. Success can be something you love. Share your thoughts with me in the comments below, or join the party on my Instagram and share there: https://www.instagram.com/katrina.widener/

 

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